Who has time for self-care . . . and what is it anyway?
Most people have some misgivings about self-care and what it means. It is certain that the United States does not promote self-care. We see working all the time as a status symbol. Sometimes we may be suspicious about being kind to ourselves. These misgivings and thoughts can block our ability to engage in good self-care.
Take a moment to write down your misgivings about self-care. As you are doing this, I want you also to write down any misgivings that you have heard from other people as well as society at large.
Here are the ones we hear most often:
I need to think more about other people than myself.
My harsh self criticism is what makes me successful.
I must be tough and strong to get through life.
Self-care is a sign of weakness.
Isn’t self care throwing a pity part for myself.
What does self care actually mean? Self-care is the disciplined (or intentional) pursuit of integrated wellness that balances mind, body, and spirit personally and professionally. Your body and mind need it. Let me give you Well’s list of our top self-care tips. I think you will be surprised by our recommendations.
Get eight hours of sleep each night. This is a non-negotiable. Many people have been told REM sleep is the stage of sleep in which you dream, but REM is involved in a host of important functions, from brain development (Trusted Source National Library of Medicine) health to emotional processing. This is when your hard emotional processing happens so don’t skimp on sleep.
Get outside for 15 to 20 minutes a day in the sun. The sun helps your body produce Vitamin D which is a mood booster. . . add in a 20 minute walk at the same time to get your feel good endorphins going. If you don’t have time for 20 minutes, start with five.
Stay hydrated, dehydration impacts mood so drink your water.
Check in with yourself a few times a day to see how you are feeling. Notice if certain tasks get you down. If you identify them, pair the drudgery with listening to your favorite song. This practice is called activity pairing and is a great way to get the unfun items off your to do list.
Finally, spend time with someone that you care about. Social connection is a tried and true way to boost mood and feel connected with family, friends, and co-workers. Make time for a quick cup of coffee or even a phone call. You will be glad you did.